Adam’s wife died unexpectedly, and he is still in mourning.
Adam said, “My late wife Emily was my school sweetheart,” as he opened his letter. “We had been together for a very long time before we got married.
The happiest moment of my life was and will always be our wedding day. I remember crying when I first saw Emily in her wedding dress because it was so breathtaking.
“Emily passed away last year,” Adam revealed. Her death came unexpectedly; she just collapsed on the street and died immediately.
All the ambulance could do was certify her death. Her death felt like the end of the world for me.
I am still in the early stages of my grief, and I still don’t fully understand that Emily is no longer with us.
“We have three daughters. Gerry, the eldest, recently got engaged,” said the man. In our family, her upcoming marriage should be a joyful occasion, but in our situation, it has instead marked the beginning of an endless argument between me and her.
Adam’s daughter wants to wear her mother’s dress to her own wedding.
“Recently, Gerry approached me and told me that she wanted to wear Emily’s wedding dress to her wedding,” Adam continues. I immediately informed her that it would not be a wise idea.
Besides the fact that I don’t want anyone to ever touch my late wife’s clothing, not even my own daughter, I have another reason for protecting it.”
Adam revealed: “There is a unique story behind my late wife’s wedding dress. Emily made it by hand, all by herself. She worked on it for two months and refused to accept help from anyone, not even her beloved grandmother.”
The man explained his late wife’s insistence on creating her own wedding dress. “Emily became pregnant while we were dating,” he wrote.
Despite our youth and the fact that we still had our whole lives ahead of us, neither of us saw children as an obstacle, so we were very happy with the news. We were thrilled and living the high life.
We told our parents the news, and they were incredibly supportive throughout, promising to help with the child and ensuring we had a great life as a married couple and parents.
In fact, we had already chosen a name for the child: Emily, after her mother. However, tragedy struck when Emily gave birth to a girl who died two hours after being born in the hospital.”
For Adam and his late wife, the wedding dress held special significance.
Adam continues: “We wanted to honor the memory of our baby, so Emily asked the nurses to carve our daughter’s footprint into a piece of clay for us.
Later, this footprint-shaped piece of clay was placed in a tiny bag and sewn into Emily’s wedding dress.
Emily insisted that this was of crucial importance to her at that time and that it was the way to commemorate the memory of our little daughter.”
Adam revealed: “We had kept this a secret from our girls, so none of them knew about it. I told Gerry not to touch the dress, let alone wear it to her wedding, when we discussed it with her again.
I only had to tell her that her mother would not approve of her wearing the dress. Gerry quickly lost her temper and began insulting me, accusing me of being a bad father and guarding my wife’s belongings.”
Adam advised his daughter to change her outfit. “I told her no again,” the man wrote, “but then I said I didn’t mind if she wore some of her late mother’s jewelry.”
However, she refused to listen to my advice, insisted on wearing the dress, and even accused me of sabotaging her wedding.”
The man admitted: “Instead of this crazy idea of wearing Emily’s dress, I have tried countless times to approach her and offer her different options.”
I volunteered to pay for her wedding, said I would buy her an expensive designer outfit, and even wanted to give her good jewelry as a gift on her big day.
However, she doesn’t even discuss these options with me, and at the moment, she is trying very hard to escalate the conflict between us as well as between me and the rest of our family.”
Adam’s choice has brought him criticism from many, and his family disapproved.
“Now all my daughters are against me, in solidarity with their sister,” Adam continues in his letter. Even my parents criticize me, saying that my daughter and I have nothing to argue about and that the dress is just a piece of fabric.
They claim it is a tribute to her memory, and I need to stop forbidding my daughter from wearing her mother’s gown.”
However, Adam remains firm. “Emily would never allow anyone to touch her wedding dress,” the man clarifies. I don’t think I should explain to Gerry why I keep telling her not to wear it.
My child must accept my decision as it is, and I think she should not be aware of this disturbing memory.
I am supposed to make a decision that I cannot make, and if I insist, I lose my daughter’s trust. I am completely lost now. How should I proceed?”
Here is another dramatic story of a woman who was severely embarrassed by her own spouse during her wedding. However, the woman immediately and fiercely retaliated, not letting things stand as they were.
